The Misguided Belief About Loss That Is Hurting Your Health

Aug 16, 2023

A couple weeks ago, I was in a client session with someone who suffers from migraines, low energy and digestive problems. She also has many food sensitivities. None of her symptoms have responded to the various medical and dietary treatments she has tried, which is what brought her to me.

She tragically lost her husband twenty years ago. He was only 46 when he died suddenly after a run at the park as they were leaving in the car together. This loss was made even more painful by the fact that they were very close; as she said, they would not even need to speak to communicate. 💔

Unbeknownst to her, her body has been holding onto the pain of his loss for all these years so “he is not forgotten.” This is a common subconscious belief we hold to honor our loved ones. But it is misguided.

We mistakenly (and usually subconsciously) believe if we keep the pain active, we will keep the person’s memory alive. Keeping pain active does not help remember the person that has passed. It only keeps heaviness in the body that limits physical function and prevents us from feeling joy.

It’s important to realize that we can remember our loved ones in joy, not grief. Living our life in as much joy as possible, and remembering the joyous times we spent together, rather than harboring grief, is what keeps passed loved one’s memory bathed in the happiness we shared. It’s what allows their spirit to live on through our lives.

In fact, this woman’s children don’t like to talk about their father’s loss, which means there is much pain that is unexpressed. Take a moment to consider: if you were the one who passed, would you want everyone being sad and missing you, or rather enjoying life and remembering how much fun they had with you when you were alive?

Unprocessed loss, grief and heartache gets stored in the body where it disrupts function and keeps us unable to feel joy. We must release this emotion to find happiness and live in health. As heavy energy leaves the body, it is lightened and it’s innate ability to heal recovers and symptoms improve.

Heart and lungs were places this energy was stored for my client. The intestines are also common places for past grief and may result in constipation, diarrhea, inflammation/pain, IBS type symptoms, or food sensitivities/poor digestion.

Due to the close relationship of the heart and lungs, inability to experience joy, asthma, immune suppression/frequent infections/chronic infections, and heart arrhythmias can all be related to unexpressed heavy emotion.

It’s important to note any loss can create sadness and grief. Loss of a relationship, loss of expectations of how life should be, loss of a home, abuse/neglect, or even a large financial loss can create stored emotion in the body that affects our health.

If you are suffering from the weight of loss, energy medicine is a great way to find freedom, without having to relive trauma. And help boost your physical health in the process.

Sarah Lascano is the founder of RayZen Energy where she is a master biofield therapist, energy medicine practitioner and healer. It is her passion to help people recover their health and reclaim their lives through expert energy medicine and wisdom. Learn more at


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